I think… sometime in the last few weeks I came to a realization that I’m only just now recognizing.
I’ve been brought as low as I’m willing to go.
I may be here for a while yet. I may even wallow in my worst moments.
But I won’t sink any lower.
Eleanor Roosevelt said that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s tricky to know how or why or exactly when I gave my consent. But I know that I revoke it now.
I revoke my consent to let one man’s selfishness and fear make me feel small and distant. I revoke my consent to let one man’s inability to love me make me feel undeserving.
I revoke my consent to let one man’s cowardice define my life.
I will climb out of this hole. And then I will fill it with cement, set up a monument to myself and light a signal fire to invite the people who actually love to celebrate. Fuck unworthiness. Fuck despair. Fuck him. I will not be owned by another person’s weaknesses.
But first, wine. And a book. Because building blocks and stairs are called for here. And time, I suspect. But I’m already building my monument in my head.